Femdom is BDSM but with a bossy lady in charge. She’s the queen of pain, humiliation, and power plays. It’s all about women taking the lead in kinky fun – both in the scene and behind closed doors.
Femdom isn’t just about pegging and torture – although those can definitely spice things up! A woman can dominate her man in all sorts of fun and respectful ways. From playful teasing to relentless tickling, there are endless opportunities for exploring the wild world of female domination while keeping things light and consensual.
Femdom can take many forms depending on its dynamics, from being part of a scene or an ongoing romantic partnership known as an FLR (female-led relationship), from only impacting certain areas, such as decision-making or bed-sharing, to completely dominating relationships and their participants.
Dom: the person who thinks they’re in charge during an intimate encounter or scene. Femdoms are the real bosses here, ruling the roost with style. Some Doms even try to make a buck out of it and call themselves Domme/Pro-dommes – talk about mixing business with pleasure!
Subs: willing participants in a game of “dom and sub,” where one person gets to boss the other around, and everyone has a good time. These lovable underdogs just can’t resist giving up control and being put in their place by a strict dom or a playful lover. They’re the ultimate team players, always ready to please and play along with their partner’s kinky desires.
SM is the term used to refer to people who practice a lifestyle rooted in submission, discipline, or masochism associated with BDSM. Originally coined by psychiatrists Richard von Drafft-Ebing and Sigmund Freud to refer to mental disorders caused by irregular psychological development from childhood onward, this word is now often applied by the BDSM community about individuals who enjoy being controlled, disciplined, or mistreated for sensual pleasure.
Scene: A prearranged time and place where BDSM activities take place. It could be anything from a club meeting room to another play space equipped with the appropriate BDSM toys and equipment.
There can be an array of terms used when discussing kink and the BDSM community that can be confusing yet necessary. Understanding identity vs. role distinctions and different forms of kink is vital – an identity remains permanent while roles change depending on each dynamic or even within a scene.